Saturday, September 12, 2020

Moving On

Sometimes in life, there comes a time where you go through major changes. It may take some time to sink in from when it actually occurs, but I guess, through whatever may come, it happens.

You move away from you childhood home, away from your childhood friends, moving on from good and bad memories.

You sell your family car, the one you used to ride going on long road trips with your parents.

Your friends migrate to another country or city quite far away.

You have to move on from someone at one point you thought you would spend the rest of your life with.

These drastic changes, whether you desire them, need them, or basically just have no choice but to live through them are part of growing up. These are part of the changes coming into adulthood and maturity. But at the end of the day, whatever the reason may be that these changes occur, these will transform you into a better person. 

These things will never be easy, the last time your family car drives away from you, the last time you lock your home door before throwing the keys away, the goodbyes at the last party you throw for you friend's migration, the last goodbye message for your supposed significant other. These are just little pieces in the struggle that is life. Whether on good terms or not, it's just a matter of time before you heal and get used to these experiences. 

But...

Don't skip anything.

If you need time to grieve, grieve. Cry your heart out at night if you must. Eat ice cream, watch your sad movies. If you need to be angry, then go be angry, curse at the wind, punch a punching bag, burn old photos. Every step is essential to finally being able to let go. 

Once completed and successful, there may be scars, sometimes visible, sometimes completely hidden, embrace them. They will help you learn.